, Elena writes:
“Reading posts like these scare the hell out of me! You seem so insightful, but in the same time a bit fatalistic. Are we really doomed to carry the burden of our charts forever?”
Elena, I am sorry the post scared the hell out of you. Fact is these blogs are about a specific individual and they represent my opinion of this one specific case, based not only on his chart but on my observations of him over the course of a couple of years. So my read on this should not be enlarged or projected or assigned to other people in any way.
As for being doomed, people are absolutely doomed if they have no drive or desire to change their lives when evidence suggests things aren’t working. But I never said this guy’s life was not working. It may be working perfectly for him! I am in no position to judge.
I can however offer my insight to my friend who prior to this conversation was operating under the illusion that this guy did not “pick her” because of some personal shortcoming. Well hell. This guy doesn’t pick anyone! Women pick him and they do so at their own peril.
So with this information my friend was able to get some clarity and let go the idea it was the shape of her butt that was the problem, and the illusion that some other differently shaped butt could come along and allow this guy to be a different human being. And this has been a great relief to her, you can imagine. Her butt is fine! She can think about other things now, and I decided to post this so others could hitchhike because this scenario is not exactly uncommon.