I’ve gotten my nerve up so I am going to continue to write on these topics that are critically important to huge numbers of people. We’ve got everyone, everywhere yelling about how screwed we are. Yeah, we know. It’s time to start talking about solutions.
This post will be about people who are alone. By choice or otherwise, it really doesn’t matter. You get older and you realize you probably going to need some help. This is particularly true now as the cost of living is soaring.
Add to this, the widespread illness people are dealing with; could be caused by stress alone; it’s sure nice to have someone around who can give you hand. Never mind, you’re giving them a hand, gives you life meaning and purpose.
Now if you’re younger, same thing. Two or three or even four of you opt to live together, it cuts your expenses, dramatically. Young or old, you don’t have to run out and get married. I’m saying, your life will be much easier if you learn to support others as they support you.
If you’re young, working together can help your group get some traction in life.
If you’re old, connecting with others can ease the pain and loneliness of aging, while increasing your sense of security on different levels.
For any of this to work, you have to be able to get along with other people. If you hate half the people out there; regardless of how you split the herd, you’re hindering your chances of success. The powers that be work ’round the clock to make us hate each other. Why comply? Life is a lot more interesting when you have non-carbon-copy of yourself to talk to.
So if you don’t want to get married and if you don’t want or need to living with someone and share expenses, there are still things you can do to improve your life. Ever hear of “neighbors”?
The best thing you can do to help yourself, is get to know your neighbors. They are right there, in a position to help you, nearly immediately.
Case in point, my neighbors had their pipes freeze over Christmas. They came over here for buckets of water to flush their toilet. If they didn’t know their neighbors, this would have been a lot worse for them. I can’t count what all they’ve done for us over the years. If you can ease someone’s burden or help someone solve their problem, why wouldn’t you? These things come around.
Neighbors are right there. You have something in common with them, other than being human, in that you chose the same location as a place to live. Mercury rules neighbors. They are like siblings… so if you don’t have siblings, this is the replacement for that. That a person might have different beliefs is irrelevant.
The things I am describing here are not TV relationships. They’re real relationships where people pool and share their resources for mutual benefit.
Another friend mentioned the Golden Girls. This is a throwback model or example of how people can pool their resources and improve their lives. It’s very different from. “There is nothing I can do!” There is something you can do. There is always something you can do, though you may have to persevere.
People tend to look at others, feeling they’re lucky to have people around to support them but in most cases, it’s because they’ve built bridges and invested in relationships and maintained them over time. You have to get over the programming… everyone in the world sucks. This is not true.
Do you have people in your life who you rely on who can rely on you?