I am in love with my friend. He has a girlfriend that is in another country and they don’t see each other very often. We spend a lot of time together and I feel we have a connection. I don’t know what to do. Should I speak with him, or just hope time will play in my favor?
Thank you for your advice.
Dear Holding Pattern,
I would definitely speak up and I could probably sit here all day and list reasons why, but this is an advice column and is supposed to be a short format! So how about I just throw a few things up here and you can peruse them.
First off, life is short. It is way too short to be coy, especially when you have Mars in Leo in the first house like you do. You’re a hunter, girl! Go after what you want. A passive Mars in Leo? That scares me. Tell him how you feel and see what’s he’s got to say.
See, you have a Pisces Moon and consequently there is a tendency to act as a doormat and sacrifice yourself. And if you think about this, you can see this is what you’re doing. You are the one next to him. You are the one taking care of him no doubt, yet she is his girlfriend! Sounds like, “Always a bridesmaid, never a bride” to me. How would you like that for a future?
If it sounds good, keep doing what you’re doing. If this pisses you off, which I hope it does, then perhaps you will be spurred to action. In either case, your Saturn Return is underway. And that means it’s time to figure out what kind of adult you are going to be. So which is it? Bride or bridesmaid?
I think you have way too much Leo to be standing in the shadow. I say, find out if this guy has similar feelings. If so, you’re in. If not, move along! And one more thing…
Just be aware that men who keep their girlfriends in other countries are usually not the best prospects for long term commitment…