I’ve never been in a relationship (Capricorn on the descendant) and I’m often disillusioned and deceived by everyone who crosses my path (Venus square Neptune). I know the problem is me, not them. I want to work on this and break this awful pattern but I don’t know how to start or what to do. Can you give me some advice please?
You’ve identified the problem, taken responsibility for it and you’re committed to work on it. This is a significant achievement. All you need do now, is follow through. As for the first step, this is key:
“I’m often disillusioned and deceived by everyone who crosses my path…”
That tells me that you expect too much from people. People are people. They are all flawed. In order to form (lasting) relationships, we must accept a person’s flaws. It’s not hard to do, if you realize that you are wanting and needing someone to be forgiving of your shortcomings too.
He talks too much, she has bad moods and horrible pms. This person repeats themselves, this other person is a bit clingy. This other person is late all the time and not that reliable…
All of those things might be true, but whoever says them is choosing to focus on a person’s imperfections. How would you like it if someone did that to you?
I have Venus square Neptune myself. To resolve problems, come to understand that this is earth, not heaven. We’re humans down here. We choose to love people, even though they’re cranky, they make bad choices and if you pressure them, they might lie. They also fart, think highly of themselves, and they may be prone to depression.
You get the idea. You’ve got to opt to leave the fantasy world and deal with the nuts and bolts of life. Get your feet on the ground and be a normal person looking for another normal person to relate to. It’s really the only way.
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