I know this sounds rather silly, but I’ve never particularly been bothered by my weight, and I was happy! Well until recently, a bunch of random people started to fat shame me. Okay, granted they always say that they were joking after commenting on my weight, nevertheless, I’ve been feeling particularly bothered by this. And I am kind of unsure about a direct confrontation, since these are new acquaintances in my life, and I don’t want to get in their bad books. Any idea on how to resolve this?
Hi, Feelings. Just reading this makes me mad. I wondered what I’d find when I looked at your chart? Some new sensitivity?
This may be part of it, but on a deeper level, I’m seeing a Pluto transit. You’re being shown the ugly side of things and it hurts.
That said, I think you’re right on with avoiding a direct confrontation. It’s popular now, people think they can patrol the mouths and minds of others. This is an illusion. If you do cop to being hurt, it’s possible these people double-down with their insults. If you would not shame a person and they would, this tells you right there, you’re of a different ilk.
Personally, I would never give someone the satisfaction of knowing they’d got to me. You remember what it’s like not to be bothered by this so you can fake it.
You can also use your pain to reinforce your own good feelings about yourself. The ability to take a punch, and be unaffected by it, shows strength of character. You’re not goin’ down.
You’re a Virgo with Jupiter conjunct your Sun. You have a Capricorn moon. You can try to parent these people, but I wouldn’t bother. That right there, might be why you’re stuck. Are you responsible to correct them? NO.
Your best move is to block your feelings (in as good sense, emotional boundaries, keep it private)…and get out there and whistle while you work. Be yourself!
A few days after you’ve mastered this, consider forgiving them. Because like you said, you’ve got to live with these people. Best to just come to terms with the fact, not everyone smart or nice or whatever. And we all get kicked around in some way, eventually.
I remember when someone told me that I looked like I had inherited syphilis, after I posted one of my videos.
Whatever, dipshit. I made four more videos that week.
One more detail for Virgo. You wrote they “started” to fat-shame you. Change that to “tried” to fat-shame me. Because you do have something to say about what you take in and what you set aside.
Anyone else have advice to offer?