You’ve written a lot about projecting shadows on others. I’m not sure if this is the same thing, but when a person falls in love, everything about the love object seems perfect. Then after a breakup, it’s possible to become repulsed by that very same person. What’s at work here? Is it projecting a ‘shadow of admiration’ and then being hit by reality and getting angry with the other person (or ourselves), thus resulting in repulsion or resentment? I have an ex I can’t even look at anymore and he did nothing wrong!
You just described your chart!
People can project anything under the sun onto others, good qualities as well as bad. People with oppositions in their chart and/or planets in the 7th house are especially prone.
Fact is, I don’t care who you are or how aware you are, you are going to project the qualities of your 7th house to some extent – PERIOD.
In your case you have Venus opposing Neptune which is textbook astrology for coming up with the dream lover. You also have Pluto sitting right on the descendant (7th house) so of course you wind up “repulsed” by your partner once the veil drops. The whole scenario is right there in your chart.
This means you are bound to repeat this phenomenon over and over into oblivion unless you work very hard to become conscious of what you’re doing. Awareness like this is the first step.
Anyone else have experience with this?
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