Ben is not “okay” with death. It’s been awhile, but I’ve written about this before. I tend to attract people who are fear death or who are at the very least, made uncomfortable by it. I don’t have these feelings and either did Ben’s mother.
Ben wonders how to get to this place. Intellectually, he understands it. His mother spent her life, devoted to service. She had a long life, and friends who appreciated her. She had a good life, by anyone’s standards. He can see this, but he can’t feel it. He can’t accept it.
I am not sure that I can crack this nut for him. Ben is just like his mother. Two high-performing Scorpios, using every minute of life to help other, anyway they can. Why would they differ so much in this regard?
My husband (Moon in Scorpio) is also not at all keen to die or have people around him die. My ex, the AMF (Scorpio), was the same way.
What do you think might cause the variance between people, who see most things in a similar fashion…except this?
About fifteen years ago, Ben’s mother tried to talk to him about her death. He refused! Come to think of it, my perineally boyfriend of 25 years, Scott, also refused to deal with death.
My first husband (five planets in Scorpio), is another man I knew who refused to discuss death, even though though his mother, also Scorpio, made it her business to attend every funeral in a fifty mile radius of her (rural) home. (see Going To Funerals) His mother wanted to discuss her funeral with him – he did the same thing that, Ben did. He flatly refused!
Sometimes people call me morbid. I don’t really understand it. Death is part of life.
How do you feel about death? If a loved one wanted to discuss their death, would you? Could you? Why or why not?