A mom from California writes:
“I was date raped 15 years ago.
My child is 14 now. He’s the child of my rapist.
I love him more than life itself.
How in the world do i talk to him about what happened to me without hurting him?
He’s growing up so fast.
I had thought I would have put it behind me by now but it still blindsides me.”
I had to think about this for a long time. I was asked, so I’m going to offer my opinion, though I’m not sure anyone will agree with me. In fact some may be enraged. But this makes it even more important I at least throw this out here so this woman has a full range of ideas…
California mom, you may want to consider not telling him, unless directly asked. I was able to come to his idea by comparing it to how mothers rarely tell their kids about the pain of childbirth. We leave this out because talking about it would burden our children which is something to avoid.
In your son’s case, he has his Moon conjunct Saturn in Cancer. This would definitely weigh heavily and perhaps create a deep sense of shame. Compare that to telling him his father bolted. Is that not bad enough?
I understand you may not be able to avoid telling him. But I would consider this in whatever case. What happened to you did not happen to him. If you are able to spare him this weight, it might be best that you can do.
I am not suggesting you lie to your child. But if you can stay on the surface with this, you may spare him tremendous pain which will, in turn, spare you tremendous pain.
As for your chart. Saturn and Pluto will square your 8th house Sun in 2020. Think about putting this trauma to rest, once and for all.
Does anyone else have an idea or anything they can offer?
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