I have been dating a lovely Pisces man and things were magical with us in the beginning. Having a Pisces mother, I know they are free spirits who need a lot of space – so recently when he started to pull back, I gave him space. But now it seems difficult to reconnect to him.
We had a peaceful, effortless, fun, loving connection and now it feels like he’s nowhere to be found – why? What should I do?
I don’t know why this man drifted – details are scarce. We don’t know how long you knew him, or how long he’s been gone. We don’t know if he is a generalized flake, married to someone else, stumbled on something that turned him off, met someone else… we don’t know.
But your post is enormously revealing and I am sure there is something you can learn here. So I am going to focus on that and meantime, maybe the Pisces will come back with some more information.
I noted your thoughtfulness regarding what you feel your partner needs. But I am afraid I also detect – via your writing and your chart – that underneath the niceness, you want to control. In other words, if you do this… then he is supposed to do that. And he is not doing that. And this may be the reason why not.
And I don’t mean to say there is something wrong with being thoughtful towards your partner. You must be considerate of your partner. But to deny what is driving you… to deny that you have wants and needs… demands of your own… is like walking around with one eye open. And if you do that, you’re going to miss a lot. And I fear this is the case here. That is, this man had cause to want to escape but you can’t see it because you can only see how nice you are.
As far as what you ought to do, I would examine this. Because what you were doing – being a thoughtful humanitarian without a speck of shadow – did not work and in fact, it is more than a little suspect.