In January this year, I met the man I am with. He says he loves me very much; however, he has a bad temper and reacts to the slightest thing. We have moved in together and I find I am walking on eggshells.
What is in store for me? Please help.
I can’t tell you what is in store for you, because it is dependent on what you do next. I am forever harping about women using their Mars, that is, their male energy. It is very important you assert yourself. It is critical that you do something about your situation, otherwise I am quite certain you are going to continue to be hurt.
See, he’s not going to stop. And the more he beats you down, the more he is going to beat you down. And the more beat down you get, the harder it is going to be to get yourself out of this.
Now you post is vague so I am not exactly sure what’s happening to you but I do know these things always get worse over time. Even when it stops, it starts back up and the sooner you decide to fight back, the sooner you’ll be free of this – and the sooner you are free of this, the less damage he will have had a chance to inflict and the shorter your recovery time. So considering all this, I would suggest you start plotting a way out of this relationship… this minute.
If you don’t know how or where to start, keep doing what you did when you wrote me. Reach out and tell people what is going on with you. Do not keep his secrets. You were born in India and I don’t know if you still live there, or what resources may exist, but I do know help of some kind is always available to anyone who asserts themselves with conviction.
So if you have access to a “battered women’s hotline”, call them.in the United States is 1-800-799-SAFE. There are people there who are very knowledgeable about your situation and I would know because I used to be one of them. They can help you map your way out and support you every step of the way.
See, here’s the thing to know. You have anger and rage inside of you. And if you don’t accept this and access your energy and apply it a healthy way, you are going to meet it outside yourself. Get it? If you won’t assert yourself, you can expect to asserted upon. But if you are willing to fight and to act in your own best interest… well, your chart is formidable and I have no doubt you can get out of this relationship and go on to have any life you want.