I met a lovely Gemini man (Gemini moon/Scorpio Rising) in February. We have been dating ever since and are in love, if not smitten! I’ve never experienced anything like this before and it’s HEAVENLY!
My concern is that he feels the need to be financially stable before entering into a relationship. I don’t know why he feels this need in order to have a girlfriend.. It’s not like we’ve ever even discussed marriage! I just wonder why he feels the need to be able to “support” a girlfriend? Is he full of excuses that he has to get his “mush” in order first?
I have a history of being a doormat. Maybe it’s my Libra Rising. I tend to put other people’s happiness before my own. I let the first and only prior dating “relationship” since my divorce drag for a year and a half with no real substance. See my dilemma? I seem to hope and hope for something that isn’t there and my biggest fear right now is that because I love him, I am going to let this drag on and on without ever having a commitment from him. I have vowed not to let this last more than a year if that’s the case. I’m just afraid of looking like a fool again.
Help! What’s going on? Why is my life a mess? Is it just because of Saturn?
Dear Libra Rising,
You’ve got a true conundrum here and though I can’t solve it for you, I can define it and you can take it from there.
You say you are in love. You’re very happy and things are heavenly but then you go on to complain and outline your fears. So at first glance a person might think, she’s already happy, isn’t that enough? Someone might wonder, “Does she want to be happy? Or committed?”
Because oddly enough, these men who don’t commit so well (and a double Gemini certainly qualifies) seem to please you on one level. But there is more than one level, isn’t there?
See the Double Gemini (an air sign) is an excellent complement to your Sun and Moon in fire and this is what is so heavenly. With an Aries Moon, and an 11th house Sun, you are quite independent and basically having no problem at all.
But you have a t-square involving Saturn (serious) and Venus (relationship). And this side of you desperately wants a commitment and you go as far as to berate yourself and call yourself a fool when one does not materialize.
And in your current relationship it manifests as fear. Oh no! What if he doesn’t marry me! And you apparently forget the fact that your relationship is excellent and thriving.
So what I would suggest you do is examine your goal. Do you want a marriage or a happy relationship? Because let me clue you in to something disturbing: If you get some stodgy committed guy, you may be married but the fire side of you is going to go feel restricted and go crazy with boredom. Ain’t that a bitch?
But this is who you are so if I were you, I’d be thinking about how I was going manage this, as opposed to chasing something I think will solve all my ills when it won’t.