I watched The September Issue. It’s about Vogue magazine. At one point, Grace Coddington talked about what it takes to stay on and make it at the magazine. She said that people come to work there and then they go. “They can’t take the heartbreak,” she explained.
I discussed it with my husband, explaining that I can take the heartbreak. I have my heart broken around here all the time.
“I was inoculated against this when I was a kid,” I explained. “I guess I should be more grateful for that, because if you can’t take a heartbreak, it’s going to limit you. For example, you can’t be in Special Forces if you can’t take the heartbreak. You’ve got to understand that your friend may be killed and you might be standing right next to him.”
If you want to play in the big leagues or be successful in a creative field or succeed as an entrepreneur, you’re going to have your heart broken, and you’re going to have to handle it.
Once I thought it in these terms, I realized what a disservice we do our kids by coddling them. There are good reasons to allow your children to take their knocks. Particularly if you want them to have the chance to push themselves and really excel.
What were you taught about being knocked down?
pictured – I believe the painting is by Anne McGill, but cannot verify.