When considering aspects in astrology, traditionally, trines and sextiles are considered, “good”. Squares and oppositions are “bad” or “challenging”. Conjunctions are judged on a case by case basis. For example, conjunctions to Jupiter or Venus (benefic planets) are “good”. Conjunctions to Saturn or Mars (malefic planets), “bad”.
You have to start somewhere! This is a likely place to start but I would not take this information too literally because the idea there are “no bad aspects” in astrology is more than a sign of our politically correct times!
All energy is neutral until directed. This should never be forgotten. You just don’t know what someone is going to do with the energy available to them until you observe what they do with the energy available to them!
I’m an example of this. I have a criminal mind! This would be a negative thing if I did not use it to empower people on a daily basis.
As for an example of an easy aspect or a gift gone to waste, a person may be born with natural athletic ability. This does not mean they will beat out the less gifted individual who has honed their skill.
Can you think of an example of this in your life? Have you squandered a talent or worked hard to overcome a deficit? Add the astrology if you can.