Generally speaking, people don’t like this. They want to hold other people close. They don’t want to deal with a gaping hole in their life, so they hold on or try to maneuver a person. It’s human nature.
But when you do this, you risk losing the person forever and the odds are against you.
I’ve been on both sides of this equation. I’ve lost people for this reason. I’ve left them, I mean. People think they know what is best for others but this is not always the case. They think they know what the person should or shouldn’t do, but do they really?
I’ve also notices when a person pulls away, the person who fears losing them, lashes out. Sometimes it’s vicious. Things are said that can’t be unsaid or unheard. So then you think about reuniting with that person, once your kinks are clear. But the memory of the pain is so strong you stop yourself.
It’s like clamping down a bear trap on a person’s leg. Once they know you’ll do that, they don’t want to get near you anymore.
This post, courtesy of my 7th house Uranus.