The concept of “added value” has come up for me over the last few days. I’m using this term for my own purpose so let me explain it.
If I have a discussion with someone and they agree with everything I say, I get a benefit in that I’m supported and validated. If they disagree with everything I say, I may feel frustrated or it may be interesting to me or whatever. But the best interactions provide a clear benefit.
I ran across this a few days ago when I was hit with something pretty serious. The person I talked to about it mentioned something I had not thought of. This information increased my understanding of my situation. This is added value.
Then yesterday, I had a consultation with a man – clearly brainy. He’s also Cardinal in nature.
The consultation was about the synastry between two charts. He provided me with an exhaustive list of all the connections between the chart… which I ignored.
Now that’s funny, sort of. But I ignored his work because his work is perfect, yet he still hired me. Am I suppose to run through his thoughts and say, yes, yes, and yes? I don’t think a person should be paid for such a thing. Instead, I approached the comparison of the charts in my way, which happens to be nearly diametrically opposed to his way.
Most of you know how I work. I take all the pieces and come up with the big, cohesive picture and the unpinnings of the charts. I wind up with a true, balanced narrative that is actionable. Mars conjunct Mercury in the 9th? I hate minutiae!
This consultation was another example of “added value”, on more than one level. The client got an independent read on his situation that incorporated my life experience. I’m pulling things from the chart, completely outside his realm – why? Because I am from a different realm?
As it turned out, his way of interacting – dominating and doing all the work for others – was also exposed. He and I are actually peers. He’s running it… I’m running it. This consultation showed him what it’s like to work with someone who could add value. It’s a big piece. Like it could take months of therapy to discover something like this. It’s so efficient.
The person who shared their view on my situation was also efficient… and I shared what they told me with another person involved. The added value, added value.
I think this is something that is harder and harder to come by as people pressured believe in certain things and think, narrowly. It takes a lot courage to think and act independently. This is why I like Mars in Gemini so much and why I think we NEED this long transit. We’re killing each other’s brains by not speaking up.
For the record, I’m not talking about confronting passerby. I’m talking about having a person ask something or make a remark. Then you take the time to consider what you think about it; come back with your own idea which adds value to their life.
What do you think?