Gemini! Everyone knows that Geminis are fun, engaging conversationalists. They know all the trivia, all the gossip, and where all the best parties are. They are lively and fascinating and seem to know every person on the planet. They are the best friends you could ever ask for. But when it comes to relationships, they get a bum rap.
They’re liars, people say. They prioritize entertainment over truth, novelty over depth. They are too intellectual to really feel anything or be sympathetic to another person. They care more about their social circle than their partners. No one person or thing could ever hold their interest. In fact, they’re basically ADHD personified. Their desire to experience everything possible means they can’t be faithful. With Gemini’s symbol being the Twins, it only follows that they have two faces and lead double lives. At least, that’s what people say.
I am here to tell you this couldn’t be further from the truth. Yes, Geminis are social, cerebral hummingbirds. Yes, they are suckers for anything interesting or novel. And sure, sometimes they even have two lives. But it’s not at all what you think.
First, Gemini are fascinating. They know a little bit about everything, and they have an amazing knack for translating that information into something fun. Gemini are always ready with a factoid or witticism. They are pretty much incapable of being bored or boring. And if they somehow run out of something to say, they’ll make something up! Now, I know I know that feeds into the “liar” stereotype, but that is only the case with young or otherwise unformed Gemini. Instead, most Gemini will use their excellent imaginations to come up with wild, obviously fictional stories that will have you rolling on the floor. And unlike Leo, which might get a little annoyed by too much audience participation, Gemini will be thrilled if you jump in and add details of your own! And while this might still sound like a trait that’s better suited for friendship than love, think about this: How many of us are bored with our partners? How many of us complain that we’ve heard the same five stories over and over until we think we’re going to explode? How many of us have endured long, drawn-out car rides with nothing but silence? You’ll never have that with Gemini. For them, boredom just doesn’t make sense. There’s always something more to learn or to say! Stick with them, and there will never be another dull moment.
Also, it’s hardly true that Gemini are naturally unfaithful. I am personally acquainted with many, many Geminis, and all are scrupulously faithful. This is because they have found their person! Gemini is the sign of the twin, see? They do not want to operate alone. In love, Gemini are looking for their other half. They want someone who is just as curious and intelligent and mischievous as they are. They’re looking to see themselves mirrored in the other. When they find that, they have no reason to stray. It would be like ripping themselves in half.
They also offer their own unique kind of support. It’s true that Twins are not the most emotional of creatures. But this can be a great thing! When things are going wrong, sometimes we want a shoulder to cry on, but just as often, we want someone to listen and help us understand what’s happening. That’s where Gemini comes in. Gemini is perfectly happy to sit with you and talk for hours, analyzing every aspect of your problem in excruciating detail. They will hear you out, ask piercing questions, and provide startling insights. And they’ll do it all without an agenda. With other signs, it’s possible to feel a little judged or like they are somehow invested in you behaving a certain way. Not Gemini. With Gemini, there’s no control, no judgement, only information. What you do with it is up to you.
And that’s another amazing thing about Gemini. They will accept you for who you are. They fundamentally understand that variety is a strength. They don’t need to only mix with people who are just like them. How boring would that be? They’d far rather understand someone than judge them. They only ask the same in return.
Which brings us to the double life allegation. Yes, there’s a kernel of truth to the idea. But it is far less sinister if you understand the mechanism behind it. Gemini are Mutable signs. They do not enjoy conflict. They don’t try to impose their point of view on others, and they can’t tolerate another person imposing their view on them. If Gemini feels like they can’t be accepted as-is, they will look around for an escape hatch rather than stay to fight it out. If this means lies and subterfuge, so be it. So if a Gemini hides from you, they probably have a reason.
And this is not always such a terrible thing! My sister is a great example. At heart, she is a free-spirited, fun-loving, wild biker lady. She is also a very high-level project manager for a Fortune 100 company. These things aren’t always especially compatible, so she’s essentially constructed two identities. She’s crafted this so thoroughly that even her voice is different. A common conversation in our family runs like this:
Mom: I heard you talked to your sister today! How is she?
Me: Oh, I have no idea. When I called, I got Work-Kelly, not Kelly-Kelly.
And at the same time, her friends wouldn’t recognize the short, cold, ultra-professional version of herself that she inhabits at work. But see what she did? She found a way to be authentic in two ways. She recognized that it was unrealistic to marry those two worlds, so she found a workaround. I think this is by far the most common way this tendency is expressed.
Finally, it’s true that Gemini really prioritize friendship. Given their need for novelty and mental stimulation, there’s really no other way it could play out. But this is a lovely thing to have in a partner! And what it really is, is Gemini taking responsibility for their own happiness. With their mental engines running on high at all times, it’s simply not possible for one person to be able to provide them with all the entertainment, conversation, and stimulation they need. They recognize this and build a workaround. So when you need sometime alone, no problem! They can call up one of their many, many friends and go to the museum. And when they come back, they’ll inevitably have a hilarious story to tell.
So it’s true that Gemini is a special breed. Loving one certainly isn’t for everyone. If you’re looking for a steady, practical partner, or a soft, nurturing lover, Taurus or Cancer is a better bet. But if you want a lively, fascinating partner who will be your best friend and keep you rolling on the floor laughing, Gemini is the one for you. All they ask for is acceptance and good conversation. And in return, you’ll get a life of love, adventures, and more fun that you can even handle.
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