Lola asks on the Freedom From Repetition Compulsion:
“This may sound like a strange question, but what happens when you recognize your pattern? For me, it was always angry, selfish men…”
What a great question, thank you.
Once you know you’re up to something, trace it back as far as you can. See if you can identify when and how it was set up… generally this happened in the childhood home and it is often obvious. For example, was your father an angry, selfish man? Point is, information is power so get all the information you can.
Armed with the information, I’ll tell my thought process: I don’t like being a cocaine rat. You know how they did those tests with rats? They would addict them to cocaine and watch them go back and back for the cocaine, starving themselves in the process.
Continuing to operate in these patterns once you are aware of them (provided you want to quit) makes you a cocaine rat. Are you a rat? I am not a rat. I am rebel, by God!
So based on this I start making different choices. And as I have told many people, many times when you do this you can expect resistance. For example, I used to date Scorpios with Leo risings. I dated like 9 of them in a row, each relationship disastrous. Gee, man. Maybe I ought to give this up.
So I decided to do exactly that and who do you think I met? More Scorpios with Leo risings. I met several of them and I had to make a choice, see? Do I go with the pattern, or cut a new path. I cut a new path. Three Scorpios with Leo Risings dodged and the universe sent me something new… success!
Anyone else want to share their process?