I generally see things like this many years ahead of most. I don’t know why this is but I like to write this stuff out, in part because I don’t want to lose my vision. I feel a person should share their gift!
More and more I am seeing people draw erroneous conclusions. The conclusions aren’t even conclusions really. They’re assumptions mistaken as “truth”. I’m talking about my personal life here, but this has broad application.
What happens is a person or persons observe something and derive its meaning without the slightest investigation. For example, someone told me that a group of people wonder why I do X. They’ve decided the reason I do X is because I am awful and terrible. I just stood there, like, huh?
“Why didn’t they ask me?” I said. “I have a reason for that. Why do they assume the reason must be negative?”
Everyone knows the answer to this. People want to think badly of others. They just do. And because of this, everyone suffers.
The people who have to be around me with my horrible motives they’ve created in their head, suffer.
I suffer because people (silently) ascribe values to me, I don’t hold.
The person who is running between the two parties…well they may be to blame in part. Why not say, “Why don’t you ask her?” You know. Ask a direct question that will get you a direct answer!
I think this is stupid. Why not deal in the truth?
Here’s another (small) example. I am not posting this to make the person who emailed me feel bad. If anything this is a service to them, but this is also a perfect example of what I’m talking about.
There has been a man in the forum recently, posting graphically about his sex life. He’s always stroking himself and stuff. It’s gross.
Last night, someone flagged one of his posts. They noted how they find it amusing (or something like that) that I react quickly to some political bashing but do nothing about this guy. They’re rolling on the floor at my…transparency? My bias? My shittiness?
I saw that and I thought, wait a minute.
#1. I might not have seen the man’s posts. It’s not like this person has reported them, repeatedly.
#2. I am sick. I’ve been candid to say I have a horrible illness. Could I have been laid up the last couple days?
#3. Some trolls are harder to be rid of than others. What if I’m on this but the troll is hard to kill for technical reasons?
You see what I mean. This person wants to see me as unfair, unjust or whatever. They don’t want to give me the benefit of the doubt. The want to think they can see deep into my psyche.
In reality they come up with nothing that remotely resembles the truth.
Now what if that person would have asked, “Hey, Elsa! How come you react quickly to this and not so quickly to this other?” Big difference, huh? The person might have learned something. I might have had the chance to say, “I’m sorry I’m slow. It’s because of this, but I will prevail…”
That’s a completely different scenario!
Now let me expand this so it’s not about me, but about everyone…
We live in a facebook world where what you are exposed to can easily be filtered. Facebook has admitted to experimenting with manipulating a person’s emotion. Think about what they are not admitting to!
This tells me, if a person is intellectually lazy, they are going to be controlled. You’ve got to stretch yourself. You have to open your mind to other possibilities.
This is what Saturn in Sagittarius is all about. Leave your vacuum! Open your mind to the concept, there are endless things you have never considered and will never consider unless you work to expand yourself.
Generosity is big too. If you can get in the habit of giving a person the benefit of the doubt…if you can remember there are AT LEAST two sides to a story, you can avoid many traps. You can also avoid victimizing others, which does have a backlash whether you can see it or not.
What good does it do a person to belittle me – the person who provides the forum they enjoy and have for years? Why not ask if you can help me with the troll?
Are you quick to judge? Do you have a story that you use every bit of info to reinforce? Do you have good guys and bad guys….and you are never the bad guy?
If so, you’re probably closed-minded. And if your mind is not open, then what?
How open minded (Sagittarius) are you really (Saturn)?