goddess makes a good point on Emotional Damage Redux regarding her husband having to come to understand she was not like what he was used to:
“It didn’t take too long for him to figure out that I didn’t have the subtext criticism he’d become accustomed to from his ex. After that, it was much smoother…”
I’m a magnet for projection given my chart. I deal with it, directly:
“I don’t care what some horrible bitch did to you in the past. I am not a horrible bitch, I have never been a horrible bitch, I have no history of this. I have never mistreated a man or cheated on a man in my life. I have never taken a man to the cleaners or anything even remotely akin to what you are talking about so until I do, I don’t want hear about it. You can have that expectation of me if you wish. If you want to think I’d do something like that – I am going change my ways after a lifetime of otherwise then go ahead but by God, don’t bother me about it because it’s got nothing to do with me.”
And really, why should I have to deal with the fact some gal cleaned some guy out financially when I’ve never taken a dime off a man in my life?
If you think about it in these terms you can see it’s just not fair (Libra) to put this stuff on people.
Do you put stuff on people that does not belong there?