Whenever I talk about natal retrograde planets, the people who experience the most fear are the people with Venus retrograde. You hear all kinds of terrible stuff – Venus retrograde people never find love, they break up and get back together but never commit, money never comes to them, etc. And I understand the fear. Venus rules all the lovely things we want out of life! That’s the last thing you want to have malfunctioning. And with only 7-8% of all people being born with Venus retrograde, it’s all too easy for myths to start forming.
Luckily, in my research, the truth is a lot more nuanced than that. Sometimes there are classic scenarios, like 5 marriages in one lifetime, but more often than not, there is more than meets the eye, and it’s rarely as terrible as we’re made to believe.
- Hidden Talents – One of the things I noticed again and again is that people with Venus retrograde are extremely talented at Venusian things, like art and literature, but that you may not ever know it. Take Winston Churchill, who became a prolific painter under a pen name, all in secret. Or take Elizabeth Barrett Browning. She started writing poetry as a preteen, but a series of illnesses caused her to lay the pen aside. Only decades later, when her cousin basically dragged her kicking and screaming to parties in literary circles, did she begin to write again. And once she did, she became one of the most prolific poets of her era. And how perfectly Venus retrograde is that? She started young, hit a snag, and later returned to her true artistic passion.
- A Second Look – People with Venus retrograde will often need to review decisions they made on Venusian matters. Take Lord Halifax, a famous diplomat who was one of the architects of the strategy to avoid WWII by appeasing Hitler. It was only when Hitler’s aggression became more apparent that Lord Halifax changed his mind, instead arguing for Britain to defend Poland. A second example would be Constance Lloyd, who married Oscar Wilde and had two children with him. It was nearly a decade later that she discovered Wilde’s other lovers and had to decide what she was willing to tolerate.
- Fear of Lack – Another theme that figures prominently for people with Venus retrograde is a fear or dislike of lack and restriction with regard to Venus things. For instance, Constance Lloyd was also part of the dress reform movement, which pushed for clothing that was more practical and easier to move around in. No more suffering for beauty for her! Or look at Mary Todd Lincoln, who was surrounded by wealth and opulence her entire life, but who also walked around with the modern equivalent of millions of dollars sewn into her petticoats. She’d never wanted for anything, but she knew all too well how quickly the tides could turn, and she wanted to protect herself just in case.
Of course, with this being such a rare placement, each individual experience will be unique. But I hope this shows that it is not a curse, nor is it a denial of Venus gifts. Most of the people mentioned were happily married for most of their lives. Most of these people lived very well and had plenty of money. They just had little setbacks and reversals, and they went slightly against the grain. But Venus retrograde, like any other placement, can be a gift. Hidden talents, a diplomatic mind, and a willingness to change your mind can take a person far in this life. All thanks to Venus retrograde.
Do you have Venus retrograde in your chart? How has it manifested? Have you noticed any positive effects?