My friend, Ben, is about to lose his mother. They’re both Scorpios. I wouldn’t even try describe their relationship or pretend that I understand its complexity. But I have been in his life for thirty years, and I do know this…
When the chips are down, Ben can rely on his mother and she can rely on him. It doesn’t matter if they like each other, love each other, repulse each other, or any combination of those things. If one of them calls on the other, that call will be answered.
I told Ben that while I don’t get involved in his relationship with his mother, I’m aware how important it is. I’ve been observing for thirty years, with little to say, because it’s just not my business. But I know she serves this important function in his life, and when she passes, I will be willing to take her place.
“I don’t know if you will like this or if you will accept it,” I said. “I don’t know what might happen in either of our lives, but the fact is, you do have me. I will do for you, whatever she would do for you..”
I explained that I knew him well enough that I thought I could serve in this way without getting too close and having to feel he was being smothering.
“I think I would know what to do, what you want and what you would not want, plus I would ask what you want and if you told me, I would listen.
“I don’t know if you believe me,” I said.
He said he pretty much did believe me. “When I first met you, I knew it was going to be an important relationship.”
But he’s a Scorpio and he won’t know until he knows, right? I understand that too.
This is all so fitting for Saturn at the tail end of Scorpio.
Who shows up for you, when the chips are down? Can someone rely on you if things go south?