I was recently told by a stranger that I was basically socially inept. I would normally have brushed the comment aside, but I had wanted to be his friend and I hadn’t made a good first impression.
Later in the week, I was out with a close friend of mine and he kept making side comments that I was pushing myself to much – basically saying that I brag too much. I don’t try to brag and I don’t intentionally push people away, but I think both of these people really saw something that I haven’t been able to directly see or remedy. I don’t want to lose the friends that I have by my brash conversation, but I feel like this is who I have been for the longest time and I’m really proud of what I have done.
I’m fairly quick to point out my flaws but I was unprepared for this one. I’m pretty worried and I don’t know how to change… or if should I change at all?
I am with you all the way down the line. Based on your chart, I think these people are seeing something you may want to address. By that I mean, I can see the potential of you being perceived as a preachy know-it-all, even if this is not what you intend.
I can also appreciate the idea that you are not ill intentioned and you want to maintain your identity and integrity and I think the solution here is really very simple.
What you need is a “tweak” rather than some kind of overhaul or personality change. You can still be “brash”… you are brash! You can still be bigger than life.
But with this increased awareness you can smooth your presentation and I think you’ll find that a little goes a very long way. And better yet, it will allow you to explore various nuance in how you present yourself. In other words just because you have 1000 volts available, this does not mean you have to use them all, all the time! Get it?
I think these people did you a favor. I suggest you thank them in humble Capricorn style, make your subtle adjustments, then carry on kicking butt as usual.