Does my boyfriend regret leaving me? I’m often asked this question. Typically the answer is no.
I don’t say that to be harsh. I thought a post like this might help people who are consuming themselves over the loss of some old lover to move on.
No, he (she) does not regret leaving you. It may surprise you to hear this put bluntly but when people, mull over their relationship history, they tend to think about all the good things they did and said. They focus on the sacrifices they made and the overall wonder of their being while ignoring the sacrifices the other person made, the good things the other person did and said, etc.
They also deny, minimize or justify the less savory bits of their personalities. They simply fail to see how they taxed the other person; cost them in some way that brought their partner to a breaking point.
It’s easy to see why someone would do this. They’ve already been left and it’s human nature to want to shore yourself up and feel better. You want the person so be wracked with regret but they rarely are.
Most people don’t want to be alone. They leave a relationship when they realize they can’t sustain it or that the bad outweighs the good. If someone broke up with you, it means that for them the bad outweighed the good, even if you can list 700 million things that are good about you.
Do you want a person who have broken up with you to feel regret? Why?