I ran across this post I wrote when my mother was dying. Sudden Death vs Death With Ceremony. Her death was stark!
Recently, I went to the funeral of a man who died, seemingly by accident. He was joker type person. He was funny and theatrical. He was the over-the-top, flirty member of a conservative family. Boy do they miss him.
I was talking to his sister-in-law; the family is close. She said it was awful not having him around but what pissed her off the most, was his manner of death. “I just can’t believe he was that, STUPID,” she said. Because the man died by stupid accident, see?
This is not something most people would mention. Few think about being careful so they don’t die for a stupid reason, leaving their family to grieve and live with the loss.
Do you think about things like this? It seems the manner in which a person dies matters tremendously to the people left behind.
Consider what families of those sexually assaulted and murdered go through. It’s enough to get you really mad.
In fact, I don’t think we’re near mad enough over things like this.
Does it matter how a person dies?