I’m aware there are a legions of people who have no inclination to help others. I’ve stated I feel Saturn in Pisces will drop the veil on things, allowing you to see them clearly, or in this case, more clearly. Point here, is this is something I’ve recently began to realize. I don’t have a good understanding of this; it’s the reason I’m posting.
I am a person that helps people. This is not because I am nice and and kind and sweet, I don’t even know if I am any of those things. But I do help people, all the time, every day. I think this is my calling… or whatever. It’s my essence rather than a conscious choice I make. I help people as easily and as readily as I breathe. Matter of fact, if I am talking to you, in any scenario, I have one ear listening for any way I might help.
Let’s say my neighbor tells me he or she is going to the store to get a hammer. I would immediately say, “Use mine!” Or if I had an extra, it would be, “Don’t need to. Take mine!”
Now this might represent a lack of boundaries, I don’t know. Venus Neptune! The point is, I would never, ever, withhold assistance from anyone if I were right there and able to help.
I’m just beginning to understand that there are a lot of people who help no one, ever. Under no circumstances will the step up to help or offer information that may make your struggle easier. They have what you need, but they are not going to give it.
I guess they might say something if you were about to step your foot in a bear trap, but what I can see, even that should not be assumed. So what is this?
I asked one person and they said it was greed and self-centeredness. That may be right but it’s not what came to my find first. I thought of a number of things ahead of that, actually. Let’s see:
- Competition – the person wants to be ahead of you in some way. While you searching for the answer, that is right in their mouth, they can gain on you. The feel every inch you lose, is their gain.,
- Jealousy – the person resents what have or they are jealous of you in some way. They’re not going to help you at all.
- Feeling of power. This is a withholding move, to see the other person squirm. You’re moving into psychopath territory here, I think, though this is very common.
I’m at a point where I want to better understand this. My chart describes a person who behaves the way I do. Do all the charts of the people who hold or even hoard everything they have, describe their behavior? I’ve seen A LOT of charts and I don’t think this is the case. If I’m right, what is the case?
Did someone not appreciate something they offered, at some point in the past?
Were they criticized or attacked while helping and decided, to hell with it all?
Are these people acting as programmed?
I witness this behavior all around me, including in people who are relatively close to me. At this point, I’m ready to reconsider these relationships and here’s why. Or rather, here is what ultimately triggered me to write about this, as these questions been swirling around me for some months.
I had a client this week who was crying on the phone. She had what seemed and what may be an unsolvable problem. Something along the lines of a medical problem that just *is*.
I wanted to help her but my information on the topic was “thin”. However, I felt this was something, Satori, might know about. I told the client, I would contact, Satori, on her behalf, which I did.
Satori came back, quickly, offering every shred of information she had, that might help this gal. See? And this runs in her family!
Years ago, my hormonal teenage son was trying to redo his look. This is outside my area of operation or expertise, so guess what happened? Satori’s teenage daughter stepped up. She took his picture and took the time to outline ideas for him. She had a bunch of looks for him. We took her advice and with a year or so, my son developed his own aesthetic. He’s known for his distinct way of dressing today.
These are very good stories, of course. So let me ask you this: If you’re someone in every kind of position to help and you refuse – what’s your reason?