Someone told me that weirdos find weirdos (to marry). I got the impression she felt it was easier to find a spouse if you were weird because you see each other out there.
I tend to agree with this because when you’re looking for someone more homogenized you’re likely to find one of two things… maybe more but this is what I can think of on the fly:
First, a person may follow trends to a large enough degree, they’re under-developed as an individuals. think you have to actually take a chance if you want to distinguish yourself.
This point leads to the next – if you’re rather generic, I don’t know that many would be moved to commit and stick with you. It’s kind of like online dating…
I worked with a gal for years, she was beautiful and personable and funny. She was in NYC so she could go any site or app and have an array of men interested in her within the hour.
She did this for years. I can’t count how many charts I have of the various men she met and dated, briefly. They were all really exciting for a day or two… a week or two at the most. It was like she was dating a “template”. I’m going to write about that next.
For now, do you think you are well enough defined as an individual, a person can’t just date another version of you and another and another?
photo imagined by a GAN (generative adversarial network) StyleGAN2 (Dec 2019) – Karras et al. and Nvidia (This person does not exist)