Dan writes on The 80/20 Rule.
“Halting the progression or the escalation of a situation that has volatile potential from developing may work well. But, I would think that an evaluation of what mechanism(s) starts the process to begin with is truly the way to overcome. Easier said than done, but something to think about.”
Dan, something great to think about, thank you! I am not sure if you were specifically referring to the “fight” dynamic between the soldier and I but if you are, this “may” be a case where there is no mechanism that starts the thing. I am not sure but I think it’s possible some things that just occur in nature akin to a volcano that erupts or lighting that strikes when and were it damn pleases.
Now between us this certainly seems to be the case. Years ago the soldier equated our interaction to handling very hot and highly charged wires, each of us on one end. Generally we are adept but every once in awhile, one of them touches the ground and literally all hell breaks lose.
Those dominoes start to fall and they just fall in a chain one after another after another and both of us have felt powerless to stop this…. up until this last fight. This last fight I hit a new wrinkle and while I still feel it impossible to stop an eruption, I think it is very possible (maybe even easy) to pluck a domino from the chain and if I am the one who manages to do it, I win, right?
Applying the natural logarithm, I am thinking I should be able to pluck that domino 80% of the time and if I can, it will have dramatic impact on our lives.
This is Virgo and Pisces working together again, of course. These signs make a hell of a team!