Saturn is squaring Venus in Gemini right now and this anecdote illustrates the energy brilliantly. The soldier has Venus in Gemini so I am the Saturn in Virgo figure of course. He was telling me about this guy he knew who used to lie all the time. The was guy was just a total liar, he loved to lie and in fact they would have lying contests. “I’ll tell you some of his lies,” the soldier offered.
He went on to tell me some of the guy’s lies, which were outrageous. “…And then the son of bitch said he was so poor he had to wrap rags around his feet… one pair of shoes a year,” he added as I listened carefully. “I told him, you’re a lying son of a bitch! You didn’t tie rags on your feet. I have been around poor people…”
I hated to do it. He was having fun telling me the story of this teller of tall tales but fact is…
“I realize this guy was lying,” I said, “but just so you know, there is such a thing as one pair of shoes a year. We got one pair of shoes a year, that was all there was. Now really, this was the case and there was a way it was done. The shoes were bought to be sturdy. Saddle shoes? They were chosen for their construction, not their looks. They were going to have to hold up all year. We got them at the start of the school year and we would wear them all year and actually they did hold up.”
“Yeah. They were sturdy as hell and they did last. They had no holes but they got dirty and your feet grew so by the end of the year, your feet were jammed in them where they hurt. So summer would come and by that time we’d really outgrown the shoes so we didn’t wear shoes. Um… eventually at times we would have those rubber sandals, thongs. They cost 50 cents, or 3 for $1.00 if you got them on sale so eventually we got those at times. You know, until they broke. We didn’t always have those either. I’m just telling you…”
“Well this guy was lying,” he said.
“I am sure he was. But anyway, it’s not really that good to be in the desert without shoes. Your feet crack, it gets real bad and as a matter of fact there were time I did tie dish towels on my feet to go outside because it hurt so much? And we had to hang up the clothes.. we had a clothesline and it was hot as hell to stand out there in one place in the burning dirt with your cracked feet. It was just painful so for that, we’d take a towel out there. Yep. I would lie a towel on the ground and stand on it so I could hang up clothes… scoot it down as I hung the clothes because it just burned the shit out your feet to do this – stand in one place as opposed to hop around.”
He knows I used to cartwheel to the mailbox and I thought about mentioning this was part of the reason why (it keeps your feet off the ground part of the time) but figured I’d not be believed. He didn’t say anything in the pause so I kept talking.
“So anyway, I just want you to know that not everyone who says they have one pair of shoes is not lying. I would hate to be telling you something and you think I am a liar.”
“P, if I ever thought you were lying to me, I’d call you on it in 2 seconds. I am not what you call a shy motherfucker about things like that.”
“Yeah, I know you’re not lyin’, but this guy was.”
People who lie make honest people look like liars.
Can you tell when someone is lying to you? Do you confront them?