I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. But once again, I have reached a point where I have lost interest and have no hope for a future with him. I’ve always envisioned the man for me as someone who can do for me what I cannot do for myself. Having lost my parents at seventeen, I have always been fiercely independent. I yearn for a man that can teach me things that I don’t already know, as well as make me feel like a woman.
I want a man that I can admire and respect. Always having to ask for support is turning me away. I fear that my dissatisfaction will have me alone but I cannot say that I am happy in this relationship. There are so many things that I want to see and do in my life, and he lacks the ambition.
This can’t be love. Please advise.
Woman in Doubt
No, I don’t think it’s love. If you have to ask…then it’s not love. Not that there is anything wrong with him. He’s just not the man for you.
So who is? What is it you’re looking for? Well, with Venus in Capricorn, in exact aspect to Saturn in the seventh house, there is always going to be “parent/child” thing in your relationships. Does this mean you’re looking for a daddy? Well, yeah.
And there is nothing wrong with that. Because you are very parental yourself. And if you do not get someone else with this sort of ability, well it’s a foregone conclusion that you are going to find yourself exactly where you are at the moment. Providing for a man who can do nothing for you, AKA you are the Mommy, and he is the child.
Here’s my advice: get your mind around the idea there will always be a parent/child aspect in your relationships. Because there will. And then look for someone who can work both sides of that aspect. Someone who can be a good parent to you… and by that I do not mean authority. What I mean is that, you are a guide. And you want someone to guide you. You support people and you want someone to support you.
And don’t worry about becoming dependent, because that will never happen. The two of you can slide back and forth in these positions, caring for each other. Nurturing each other. You will never be a “little girl” for more than an hour or two a day, if you’re lucky. You lost that chance when your parents died, didn’t you? You did, and I’m sorry.
But by all means, please go get yourself a full-grown man. Personally, I would look for someone older. Five to ten years… because you’re way grown up, aren’t you? I think so. I imagine the man who has what you need is going to have experience and maturity beyond your own… and extra years on the planet affords this.
If you have Saturn in the 7th or Venus in Capricorn, check out the transcript to my workshop – Finding Your True Love And Soulmate. It will help you!