Living in Aurora, CO, I was unnerved when our city was swarming with press after the Century 16 mass murder. I also unnerved when someone told me we’d be out of the news and off people’s minds in no time. This is exactly what happened.
You can read this and say that people no longer react to things like this because they’ve built an immunity, but I’m not sure that’s it. Consider this from Laurence Gonzales’ book Surviving Survival: The Art and Science of Resilience:
“It turns out that many of the beliefs about this subject that psychotherapists have long held sacred are simply not true. For example, when the World Trade Center was attacked, the Federal Emergency Management Agency spent $155 million to make psychological counseling available to anyone who wanted it. The experts thought a quarter of a million people would seek help for the unimaginable grief over lost loved ones or for debilitating anxiety as a reaction the the horror they’d witnessed. Just 300 people showed up…”
The author states that while most people will experience trauma, the majority of them are able to go on with their lives. This is important to realize.
With Uranus squaring Pluto, we see things degrading all around us. You glean no benefit by denigrating yourself for being resilient. Why not cultivate the ability to move on, which appears to be embedded in most of us anyway?
This attitude comes through in my consulting work. Rather than create a dependency with my clients, I try to delineate the problem and outline a solution in one session. From there, the person need only follow through and they’re very likely to get a good result.
Are you resilient?