Some people place a high demand on the energy of others. This is for good or ill. It’s good and healthy that a person come across someone like this from time to time. These are Plutonians, basically. When you deal with one of them, you know you’re alive.
It’s common to see demanding people have aspects from Pluto to personal planets. Sometimes the person knows they’re demanding. They may feel justified in being demanding. But often they’re acting compulsively which they may not realize.
It’s the people who are unconsciously demanding who are scary. They literally consume the other; who must fight to get away in order to survive.
I’ve acted this way myself. At this point in my life, I make a constant effort not to place demands on people. I concentrate on leaving all doors open and giving everyone I am involved with, maximum space and freedom.
I can’t say I’m rid of my deeper drives, though. I’ve just learned it’s necessary I control myself.
Do you someone demanding who does not realize they put others in a pressure cooker?