Do you have any experience with delayed sadness? Is there any astrological connection in your opinion which sign, placement leans more toward it?
D From Croatia
Hi, D. I’ve never considered this before but I have some ideas.
First, I doubt you could identify this tendency from a natal chart because the way a person reacts to loss would change over the course of their lifetime. The type of loss is another variable.
- Death of a loved one?
- Loss on the career front?
- How about straight up disillusion with life of the loss of a dream?
- Loss of freedom
Glancing at that list, I see associations to the 4th, 7th, 8th, 9th, 10th, 11th and 12th houses, at a minimum. Then you consider a person’s maturity as well as what they might be experiencing in the moment. My guess is that delayed grief would most likely be shown by transits.
As an example, a small child may lose a parent to death or divorce. Let’s say they’re two years old. It’s likely to be years before they comprehend their loss. Abused children may be in a similar boat. You can be going along just fine and the some transit comes along and it hits you.
As for what transits might trigger a person; Saturn to the moon or 4th house comes to mind immediately, but there are many other possibilities.
To answer your question signs and placements; these things might have some play, but I would be inclined to look at transits for an explanation. Two things come to mind, immediately.
First, a person may postpone grieving because they are in a state of overwhelm. I see this all the time. People will multiple rough transits. It’s like owing money to ten people and you can only pay five of them. Obviously, payment to the other five will be delayed.
The second common scenario would be denial of the loss or denial of the magnitude of the loss. Take rejection. A person may deal with it well, up until they don’t. Rejection #140 does them in; and their hit with a wave that knocks them off their feet.
What do you know about delayed grief?