Degrading A Person Because You Feel Bad

8th house astrology death2“You feel bad about yourself, so you’re degrading me,” I said.

This is a common scenario but few are aware of it (on either side of the equation). Having grown up with a packed 8th house and a parent who had Pluto opposing their Sun, I can tell you a lot about this. A person gets to feeling bad – they’ve just got to degrade someone near them. This is a survival mechanism.

You can see this clearly, when someone launches venomous attack against a loved one or an associate or even a celebrity they’ve never met.

If a person does this, it’s their problem. But it is also the problem of the person they degrade if that person internalizes what is said about them.

Have you ever seen someone mad or disgusted with themselves be mad and disgusted with you? When you are venting your spleen on someone, do you ever consider the idea that you might be the shadow figure? 

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  1. My (now elderly) dad has a t-square involving his Sun + Pluto + Uranus. A lifelong history of sudden and violent explosions attacking and degrading me, the only Plutonian in the family.

    I don’t know what he’s come to understand about this and about himself (we don’t talk about it), but I know for a fact he has been trying real hard the last few years to “control” his outbursts. I respect him for that.

    Having the benefit of astrology to shed light on the dynamics between us helps me better handle our interactions (my part especially) and to be more compassionate (and humble).

    • Oh. And his Sun+MC in Scorpio? They are smack atop my Neptune. He doesn’t even SEE me when he “loses it”. He’s just STABBING AWAY MADLY IN THE DARK and I just happen to be there, except he can’t see “me”. I guess it’s his projected issues he is “seeing”, in the fogged up mirror that I happen to be.

  2. A great post and comments. I have to keep reminding myself of this.
    I have Mercury and Moon in Scorpio and I think I have always KNOWN this. Nevertheless, I have been guilty and in return also a victim of it.

    A couple of days ago I ran across a beautiful quote by Nikita Gill :
    „If you have been brutally broken, but still have the courage to be gentle to others, then you deserve a love deeper than the ocean itself.“

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