It’s human nature that we find ways to justify whatever we do. A lot of people live this way their entire lives. Others work out a way to take a critical look at their own behavior.
We got devastating news today. A seventeen year old boy took his life, leaving his family behind to cope. Now how are they going to cope?
Certainly the parents will run through what they did and didn’t do. Hopefully they can keep from turning on each other. No matter what they come up, it’s going to hurt. They are facing a prolonged, agonizing time, in the best case scenario.
So what if you’re one of these people who has never looked in a mirror. Never faced your own shortcomings , accepted them, forgiven yourself and maybe made amends to people you’ve hurt by your own selfishness or whatever it might be? How does a person like this cope, when hit with something of this magnitude?
When I was in my mid 20’s, my perennial boyfriend, Scott was having his Saturn return (28.5 years old). He was a Cancer, born with talent, coddled and privileged. I was from the street. He came to me at this time, horrifically humbled by events in life.
“I should have never postponed growing up, Elsie,” he said. “It’s the biggest mistake a person can make.” I’ve never forgotten this.
You never know when life is going to deal you a blow of this kind. It makes sense you keep your spirit in condition.
How would you cope with true, traumatic, permanent loss?