You study astrology and you learn enough to scare yourself. You see Venus square Saturn and conclude that you will never be loved. You see Venus square the Moon and decide you will never feel satisfied. You’ve got Saturn conjunct the Moon or the IC and you think, oh no! I’m depressed!
What happens next?
It’s bad enough to get something like this in your head in the first place, but you get into thought patterns like these and stay there for years. Your beliefs become reinforced as you live your life, looking for evidence of your plight.
Why does this happen?
This happens because the seed is bad. The original information is bad.
This is no different than having a parent tell you you’re good for nothing when you’re a kid. If you don’t address something like this, you wind up walking around, fulfilling the prophecy.
How to I fix this?
You’ve got to get at the root of it. You have to address the core belief. It’s like a weed left to grow in garden. As long as it’s left there, nothing else can take that space.
This is a good analogy because weeds grow over time, both above and below the ground. Bad beliefs are the same. They flourish not only in the visible world, but deep in the psyche. If you want to be rid of something like this, you’ve got to excavate the root and plant something new in it’s place.
How do I go about that?
Change your perspective. You’ve got to broaden your view.
I’ve said many times, energy is neutral until directed. This is fact that is undeniable but you have to deny this fact to look at an aspect in a chart and determine that is can only manifest in negative ways that bring about a negative outcome. You can see how narrow-minded that is. You’re oppressing yourself. You’re poisoning your own well with misinformation.
Tell me step by step how to fix this.
- Identify something in your chart that you’ve tagged as bad and horrible and your personal curse.
- Brainstorm positive ways the energy might be expressed, and see if you’re not missing the entire side of a barn.
Example: You may have limited choices, but there is an upside to this. A person with three choices is going to have an easier time making a decision and getting on with their life, then the person with thirty choices who winds up doing nothing. Or let’s say you have a serious mood or disposition. You could be lighter, it’s true. But you could also be a flake. You get the idea here. You have to expand your view of things.
- Adopt the new perspective.
Let me give you a real life, somewhat off-the-wall example of this.
Right now, my son and his friends (ages 13-15) have gained independence in that I allow them ride the light rail to the amusement park on their own. They have season passes and want to go all the time. A slice of pizza costs $6 so you can imagine how fast it adds up trying to keep these kids fed, on these 2-3 times weekly trips to the park , considering they get there when the park opens and leave when it closes. I told them they best brainstorm how they are going to eat on the road, considering they only had so much money. Where is you ingenuity?” I asked.
They didn’t like this at first but they quickly realized they could leave the park and walk to the McDonald’s and eat off the $1 menu. They felt really good about solving this problem and it occurred to me last night, these kids will be boasting to their kids someday, about how they used to go all the way to Six Flags with $5 in their pocket. I hope you can see how their limits and hardship has benefited them, in the short term and the long term as well.
Is there something in your chart that you feel sinks you? How might you alter this?