HELP! I am divorced from a Scorpio and now I’m in love with another Scorpio (Sun and Ascendant) who is getting ready to propose! What is wrong with me that I cannot get away from men of this sign?
Can a person have a successful relationship with someone in the same sign of a past failed relationship? Won’t I ALWAYS look for/see signs of my ex in my current love?
Libra in Love
Dear Libra, this is a really good question. I think you will see signs of your ex in your current love as we tend to gravitate towards certain energies and have certain patterns that we repeat in relationship. Whether this is good or bad is difficult to say.
For example, 95% of the men I have had relationships with have either a Scorpio or an Aquarius Moon. This would indicate I like intense eccentrics, they like me, or perhaps I’m an intense eccentric myself. I’m not sure I can or should do anything about this. I am drawn to iconoclastic men courtesy of my childhood. I can’t imagine being with anyone who did not have this flavor to them but there is a darker way this can go.
You may still in love or obsessed with your ex and trying to recreate what you had via use of a surrogate. While this may be deeply disturbing, it’s incredibly common.
I am not sure but in your case it seems the latter might have some play. If this is the case it does not mean your relationship is a mistake or that it is hopeless. Simply becoming conscious of your drives will go a long way towards changing the dynamic. Think of what happens the hydra when exposed to the light.
How do you feel about dating the same type over and over?