Do you send your partner or people you date, mixed messages? This seems very common to me, both from women and men. For example, a 39 year old man tells a woman he is looking for a serious relationship but proceeds to push her away as he also pulls her in. Also, he’s never had a serious relationship in his life, or he claims to have had five serious relationships, each lasting a year and it’s just ludicrous.
On the woman’s side, they tend to say they are not looking for a serious relationship but their behavior says otherwise. They say the only want a little…some kind of bare minimum man but in fact, they are demanding to a point that is beyond all reason.
People say they want true love, real love, blah blah. But invariably the people they choose are utterly unavailable for such a thing and this condition is easily determined. I am not talking about someone who goes on a dating site and conceals his marriage. I am talking about a man who goes on a dating site, tells you he’s had a bad break-up and he’d dating around, trying to recover. That bad break-up might have been five years ago, but you know. He’s hurtin’. He’s hurting so bad, he’s emailing, texting and probably screwing 4 or 5 dating site women, juggling them, and this is the guy you pick? It’s no wonder people are struggling.
Some feel that once you get to a certain age, say 35 or 40 and up, what you have is exactly what you want, whether you realize it or not.
Do you give your partners or potential partners mixed messages? How consistent are you when it comes to words and actions?