The first Cancer man I dated, I married. I was a single mom at the time and I think that was no small part of the attraction for that particular Cancer man. Right away he told me he wanted to marry me. I had told him I wanted to have more children and I wasn’t interested in dating just to date, so he said, “great, let’s get married!”
I was in heaven, and then I met his mother. She hated me instantly. She decided I was a gold-digger and out to trap her son. At her first opportunity she told him, “it’s her or me.” I was shocked when he told her, “I’m sorry you feel that way, mom, but I’m not going to choose.” Eventually she accepted this and we came to love each other, she and I. In fact, even though we’re now divorced, I adore his mother, with all her quirks (I certainly have mine), and look forward to seeing her whenever I have the opportunity.
My son is also a Cancer. His Uranus-Neptune conjunction opposes his Cancer sun and stellium and conjuncts my moon. I was shocked, just shocked to find out he was going to be a boy! It never occurred to me I could have a boy! But when I calmed down I decided I was going to raise me a good boy, a man who respected and loved women. I was going to raise a good man who would treat a woman right. and I did. His whole life he has loved babies, loved women, and he’s very clear that he’s looking for someone to settle down with and have a family.
My son has Cancer Mercury conjuncting his sun and opposing his Neptune, his Neptune conjuncting my moon. When he was little he attended a daycare where it was mainly fathers picking up their children and all the kids would run to their father yelling, “Daddy, Daddy, Daddy!” So when he began to talk he called me Daddy. He called me Daddy for years until he got a daddy. It was so cute I hated to break him of it. But I never had any doubt he knew I was his mama.
When he was in the emergency room for alcohol poisoning, so drunk he couldn’t see straight, the doctor told him they had called his mother. I’m told he lifted up his head and grinned, saying, “Oh GOOD. She’s going to KICK MY ASS.” Then he passed out.
My son is also very good to me. He expresses his love and loyalty daily. He’s a good family man in the making and he loves his mama. He lives his sun.
Home, family, and the mama will always be a core issue for Cancer, those with personal planets in Cancer or the 4th house. With challenging aspects or expressed poorly it can be a complicated issue, but an issue nonetheless. When dating Cancer you will be dealing with home and the mama, or being the mama, or the mama comes first. In any case, mama is part of the paradigm in some way. He’s also a man who knows how to work mama. So hang loose and see how it unfolds.
Have you ever dated someone with marked Cancer energy? How did they feel about women and their mama? Did it affect the relationship?