I have been a life-long commitment-phobic. I don’t think this is like alcoholism – once a commitment-phobic, always a commitment-phobic. I didn’t know this until I’d actually resolved this myself. It hit me the other night, this is the first time in my life I have ever felt settled in a relationship.
I work with a lot of women who are either like me or they date men like me and commonly it’s both. I may be someone’s girlfriend or even someone’s wife but deep down, I know (and they know) that the situation is for now. It’s happening in the moment and at no time have I ever been able to see myself with someone, five years down the road, say. We may be solidly partnered, seen as partnered, etc. but deep down, I don’t believe it. Deep down, I have never committed. Considering this, you might imagine my shock to realize I am actually settled now.
As for the astrology, I have Uranus in the 7th house (classic) and a very strong Jupiter signature in my chart. I don’t know what to say besides the impulse to jump the fence is… well, it’s inborn.
Are you a commitment-phobic? If yes, do you think it can be resolved? Are you even interested in resolving it?