Most parents say they want their child to have a better life than they did and I think most of them mean it. How much they actually invest in this goal may vary but I think parents who want their kids to suffer beyond what they’ve endured are part of a small minority.
Some specify they want their kids to have a better opportunity then they did so they work hard and save so they can pay for their child’s college education which might have been something they either didn’t get or had to struggle to pay for. You get the idea. And this all goes well except for when it doesn’t.
Situations exist where the kid just does not have the chops the parent does. They may not have the brains or the talent or the courage or whatever qualities the parent may possess that allowed them to achieve to the extent that they did. It may be that the parent’s achievement is so towering, the child has little hope but to fall short and this is where it gets interesting.
Say you’re a celebrity and your kid is a loser. You will invariably be blamed. People will say and assume that your kid was neglected by you, that you sold your kid for your ambition and so forth. They will simultaneously deny the many advantages you provided your kid and in fact, blame you on that front too – you gave too much!
Some kids wind up hitchhiking off their parent’s success by writing a tell-all book like Mommie Dearest When you read something like that, do you ever question the motive of the child or their credibility? I do.
The fact is anomalies exist. If you happen to be one, chances are you children are not going to be able to replicate your success no matter what you do and this to me, seems a very hard and heart-breaking pill to swallow.
What do you know about this?