My husband and I were coming off years of intense difficulty. The kind you don’t even speak of.
“I wouldn’t worry about that,” I said. “We are in impossible conditions, trying to have a life. I have been in impossible conditions myself, for nine years. The conditions were completely impossible but I still managed to have some kind of life.”
“Yep,” he said.
“You’ve been in impossible conditions for nearly as long as I have. Your conditions have been as bad as mine but you’ve also managed to have a life. You’ve managed to have a life in spite of the conditions which anyone in their right mind would recognize are completely impossible and beyond the pale.”
“So we both know what it is like and I can’t imagine us getting together and either one of us creating the kind of conditions that would make it hard for a person to live after what we’ve both been through. Can you?”
“No, I don’t think we would.”
“Right. It’s not going to happen. We are the last people on this planet who create conditions that would make another person miserable. I wouldn’t do it for all the tea in China. You?”
“So don’t worry then. We will be looking out for each other, we don’t know any other way.”
Saturn / Capricorn types are frequently deeply compassionate as a result of their struggles. Have you met this side of Saturn?