Please could you help me with a Scorpio guy? I’ve known him for ages- seven years, as he’s a friend of my partners and comes to our house often. I’ve never really looked at him closely or even fancied him. He has always been very nasty and sarcastic to me so I generally ignored him. He also used to berate my hubby for not keeping me in line and letting me answer back (excuse me!)
It now seems, though I’m not 100% sure, that he has always fancied me and has been watching me from a distance. He seems to know lots about me and all of a sudden, I fancy him like mad. Why is that?
Anyway when I tried to speak to him about it, he disappeared for days… so I left it not asking where he went, as it’s not my business. Even though I wanted to desperately, as it made me feel ill when he went away and I missed him. How can that be when we’ve not even had an relationship and I generally find him to be a macho pig?
I decided a few months ago (after he kept coming back to my house staring at me like he’s undressing me, going through my emails AND asking who people are who email me!!) that even though it hurt, I would ignore him. But he comes back every two weeks and plays games, my husband cannot see it!! And I have no hard evidence that he’s coming on to me, so to say something to my partner would be futile.
Am I going insane? I don’t want to want him but I can’t help myself. This is ridiculous. Incidentally when I tried to talk to him about my feelings, he won’t speak about the night he disappeared.
Attracted To My Husband’s Friend
It’s common knowledge that I like Scorpios. However some of them are total pricks and it sounds like you’ve met one of these. I have actually been in similar situations (though more mild) as yours and can tell you what’s going on. The guy is playing with you. He is manipulating you and quite skillfully.
See, Scorpio has a vibe. A sexual vibe this is and it’s true they exude it to a degree all the time. But they can also focus it at their will. They can put their sexual energy on a person low, medium, high or burn you up, darlin’… for whatever reason they may decide.
And it’s not uncommon for Scorpio to do this for their own entertainment. Sort of like a spider, delighted with some little creature caught in their web. They focus on you, sexualize you, get you all stimulated and then lay back and observe as you find yourself caught and can’t figure a way out.
So you see, the bastard has exactly what he wants. You thrashing around at night thinking of him, that is. He’s getting off on it, I promise you that. He’s stoking it. And it sounds all dire, as if there is nothing for you to do but be a pawn in his game, but that is illusion. This is actually surprisingly easy to fix. Do you want to fix it?
Maybe you don’t. Because it’s so stimulating and all. But eventually you’ll get sicker and he’ll get stronger and you’ll want to stop this so I’ll tell you how.
You only need to confront him. Scorpio hates this by the way, so if you do this, be aware there will be no more games with you… ever. And this’ll cost you too. Because when Scorpio takes their energy off you, you’re going to know it. You’re going to drop like 15 feet, straight down, almost immediately, but anyway it’s a simple fix. All you need do is hold this bastard up to the light. Like this:
Approach him directly and look him right in the eye. “I know what you’re doing and I want you to stop. Take your energy off me. Do it now and keep it that way because I don’t like it and further, you are boring me…”
This will rid you of your problem 95% of the time. If someone is particularly stubborn and wants to continue to sexualize you, respond in kind. He stares at your crotch, and you stare back at his wth a dispassionate smile. And at that point it’s all out in the open, which kills it for the Scorp. So he’ll die, but just remember to brace, because you’ll die with him and there will be an aftermath, called a void.