Oh Cancer. So loving, so sweet, so nurturing. They are stellar parents and caretakers, but what about partners?
I can already feel air and fire-heavy people cringing. Aren’t they ridiculously sensitive? Don’t they pull smother-mother moves constantly? Or even worse, don’t they expect you to mother them? And aren’t they, well, crybabies? Ugh. It all sounds so…soggy.
I get it! They are arguably the wateriest of the water signs, and that can definitely be a challenge. But they have so much to offer, and what they offer is so valuable. I will cop to bias here – every man I’ve dated seriously has had a Cancer Moon. I love Cancer. But even stepping back from that, I still think there’s just no better partner out there.
First, let’s get this mothering myth out of the way. It’s true that Cancers are nurturing and family-oriented. It’s even true that there is often a bit of a parent-child dynamic in their relationships. But it’s not universal, and it certainly doesn’t represent the totality of their experience. Instead, I view it from a lens of protection and caretaking. Growing up with a Cancer father, I learned that Cancer is one of the most fiercely protective signs in the zodiac, second possibly only to Scorpio. That crab shell they use to protect themselves also expands to shield the people they love. If someone hurts you, they will absolutely go to war to protect you.
And that shell has even more benefits. Remember, Cancer is family-oriented and nurturing. If you are family (and their partner is always family), the shell not only becomes a shield to keep enemies out, but also becomes the walls to a cozy cabin that keeps you warm during even the harshest winter. Being loved by a Cancer feels like soft blankets, a steaming cup of tea, and a roaring fire. It feels like home.
Also, while it’s true that Cancer is certainly sensitive (that shell protects a soft, vulnerable interior), sensitive doesn’t necessarily mean unreasonable or whiny. It means that they are connected to you emotionally and value your opinion, and as such your words carry the power to wound. Their sensitivity means that you matter.
In this way, Cancer helps us to be better versions of ourselves. When we realize the power we have to hurt the people we love, we are morally obligated to hold ourselves to a higher standard. We have to decide what is more important to us: preserving our ability to act out and say whatever we want, or our partner’s dignity and trust.
Finally, Cancer is just plain fun. When they love you, you become the center of their world and they will do anything to see you smile. And they are more than capable of making it happen. Cancer possesses their own distinct brand of humor. Standing in opposition to Capricorn’s dark, self-deprecating gallows humor, Cancer’s humor is downright loony. Think Robin Williams, Jim Gaffigan, or Helen Hong. Whatever their personal style, a Cancer partner is sure to have you rolling.
So if you want a partner with a thick skin who will give you plenty of space, Try Aries or Sagittarius. But if you want a partner who will be your support, your cheerleader, your defender, and your soft place to fall, look no further. Tea is on, and a fresh batch of cookies is almost ready. Cancer’s got you.
Have you been loved by a Cancer? What was it like?