I want to add to my last two posts because I don’t think I’m being understood. I’ll use a story (about myself) as an example…something old timers around here might remember.
Back when I was in my late twenties, I was feeling pretty good about myself, over all. Having started out homeless at fifteen years old, I had made it in the world. Worked my way up until I was making a salary in line with the top 5% for women in the era.
I was out one night and this man said, “Elsa. You’re nothin’ but a mother looking for kids.”
I was floored by his comment. I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t know how to feel…if I was upset, coming or going.
I didn’t know if I was being insulted, diminished…or merely informed.
I covered my confusion, I think. But I was haunted by his comment because…what if he was right? I had no children at the time.
Fast forward five years, I was having my second baby. It’s obvious to me now, I am a natural mother. Born for it.
So let’s think back…
If that man said that to me in this era, someone very well might have jumped in and said, “Hey! Don’t say that to Elsa! That’s not nice. Blah, blah, blah. She’s fine the way she is…”
They may as well be saying, Hey! Don’t let Elsa learn anything. Don’t let her grow at all. Don’t pressure her. Don’t make her question herself and her direction in life. Leave her blinders on!
It scares the hell out of me to think of this. People defending my right to remain ignorant, basically. Because had it happened that way, I am not at all sure I would have evolved into my authentic self. Especially in this era when up is down, left is right and such.
So this is what I am getting at with these last posts. If someone (figuratively) smacks the shit out of you, because that’s certainly what it felt like to me at the time, you might want to ask yourself if what they really did is hand you your keys to freedom.
Liberation of the true self is so important, judging the message or the messenger as “harsh”, doesn’t even factor in my mind. Did you or did you not, figure it out? At least you had the opportunity!
For the record, all that guy did was share an observation. He could get crucified for what he said, if he tried to say it today to a, uh…modern woman. 🙂