How and what do you work on within and without yourself to finally be in a place to recognize, cherish and honor a true love?
Starry-Eyed and Full
I think the capacity one has to love another in completely contingent on their capacity to love themselves. For example, if I can look in the mirror and see my (perceived) body flaws or examine my personality and have awareness of my various foibles, and accept them, then I’ll be able to do the same for you.
But if I can’t do this, then I am going to be looking all over the place for someone to project upon.
Or I am going to be looking all over the place for someone to oppress… someone I can take apart so I can feel better about myself, ala “I am skinnier than her!”
Or I have a nice car / a rich husband and she does not. Or my kid got an A and her kid got a B+, therefore I am okay. I am elevated.
I don’t think it takes much of a stretch to see that this kind of person is going to give and have lousy love. Because looking for someone to dump on or pick on is a full time job for one. You’re very busy. And also this stuff will ultimately get projected onto the partner, if not sooner then later. All in the name of, “You always hurt the one you love…” Er… no you don’t!
So I would say the answer is to find a way to accept yourself as an individual in all your jacked up glory, which will allow you to do the same for others… which they will really appreciate! They will love you for this as a matter of fact. And astrology can help tremendously because it’s provides such a concise map of a human being.
I once told someone astrology could show them their own ass and it can. I told her if she was willing to look at her own backside… which everyone else can see anyway, she might become so fascinated she would not have time to pick apart another person’s. And if you can manage to see and accept your shadow, you’ll be able to easily accept mine and it’s right about here you have a chance at true love.
So what do you think? Anyone else want to weigh in?