I was recently in a long-term relationship of over 2 years. It was also a long distance relationship but my boyfriend and I managed to see each other many times a year. We were totally in love. We had even made plans to marry after we finished school.
But then things changed 4 months ago; he just started becoming distant. He came out to his parents and they told him to stay away from me and not to talk to me. I was so hurt and shattered that he didn’t stick up for us with all the promises he made to me. I didn’t hear from him over the holidays. His last call was on Dec.18. I received a couple of text messages here and there saying that he would call me but I never heard from him. On Christmas he didn’t even call. He just left or apparently broke up with me without telling me
I’m so lost I feel like I am broken in two and my heart is shattered because it has been two weeks since I have heard from him. What do I do? Do I move on? Do I try to call? I feel like I can’t move on without answers. He made so many promises and then broke my heart what do I do? How can I trust again? I thought he was the one for me – he declared his love for me and proposed to me too. Please help me? I am scared out of my mind that he left me for someone else. How could he do this to me? Please help!!!
There is no way to spin this experience so that you come out less traumatized and I feel horrible for you. There is no crueler way to break up with someone and all I can do is try to give you a clear read from the outside in the hopes it brings small comfort.
First, I think you are well within your rights to do anything you want. Write, call, or show up wherever he might be to confront him if you think this will help you heal. However, I don’t think he’s coming back. And it’s been long enough now you’d be well advised to let your thinking and your feelings shift from holding out hope to beginning to accept the reality that you wouldn’t want him back. Because would you?
Regardless of what you had (and I believe it was substantial), you are a Scorpio with four planets in the sign and you must see this man cannot be trusted. He has shattered your relationship totally, and utterly betrayed and abandoned you… and what this makes him is a loser! Seriously. And tell you something else.
He won’t get away with it. If you wonder if he’s just skipping along with his new man, I assure you, he is not. You just can’t pull this kind of thing and be okay. On the surface, maybe. But on a deeper level this is going to gnaw at him until the end of time unless he surfaces and makes some effort to do right by you.
Not that you should wait for that! You have to start looking forward and as painful as this is, you are 22 years old. And you are going to have all kinds of experiences. You are going to meet better men for sure! In fact, someday you’ll look back and thank your lucky stars you got rid of this guy when you did, because anyone who would do this to their lover is worthless like a 3 dollar bill.
And I know you have to mourn but be specific about it. Mourn the fact you invested in an empty vessel, not the misguided notion you have lost the best man in the world. Because people with soul don’t behave like this and people with no soul? Well the sooner you can break with them, the better.
Be proud. You did nothing wrong. And have some faith because in the larger scheme there is a reason for this, like the universe clearing the decks, making space so the new and better man can come into the picture. Wanna bet?
You’re going to be okay.
Much love and good luck.