“I don’t want to say anything about that because it’s not my business,” I explained to my husband. “I try to stay out of other people’s business completely. Why piss people off by telling them what I think about things that are none of my business in the first place?”
“Bothering me? You don’t bother me. I want you in my business. I want you to figure out some of the stuff. I don’t have time to figure it out myself. In fact I’m relying on you so stop staying out of my business! Come on, P. Get in my business and get it in now, this is exactly what I want.”
When I was young I was pretty controlling but I have very strong boundaries now. They rarely fail and if you want me in your business, I have to be invited or asked directly for input or energy. Otherwise? Nothing.
What about you?