If you have Lilith in the 7th house of your chart, her themes will manifest in terms in terms of relationships, partnerships, and objects of pursuit. The “other” in your life will take on a distinctly Lilith flavor.
In the 7th house, we meet the people involved in giving shape to our journey to know ourselves. Everything present in the 7th house is present in our own being, but often manifests in the form of other people. With Lilith in the 7th, your partners will be those who live out your own pain and fury for you. They force you to either own your darkness or live in impotent outrage. They hold up a mirror to your darkest self. You often find yourself so angry and disappointed with them when you are really furious about the injustices that you yourself have faced. But until are ready to own them, you will continue to pick partners who remind you.
This is part of why, in traditional astrology, the 7th house is known as the House of Setting. Here is where the Sun sets, and here is where things we cannot or will not absorb into our own being cause us to come undone. With Lilith in the 7th, your partnerships will be your weakness. This can be as simple as being a sucker for a certain type of appearance or as all-consuming as sacrificing your own life and happiness to meet your partner’s whims.
Finally, Lilith in the 7th house is unknowable. Think about what a lifelong process it is to come to truly know yourself. With that in mind, think about what an impossible feat it is to truly understand another person. With Lilith in the 7th house, you will struggle mightily to fully grasp the scope of your own pain. And because if this, you will likely underestimate your ability to cause pain to others. Yours is a very sharp knife, and it is absolutely imperative that you learn to wield it well.
This placement is so complex and could be a book in its own right. But if there’s one thing I can leave you with, it’s this: Your pain is your own, and you have a lifetime of exploration ahead of you. In the meantime, welcome the partners who challenge you and make you uncomfortable, within reason of course. The more you are willing to engage with and understand their darkness, the ore you will come to understand your own. And then, finally, you can begin to find peace.
Do you have Lilith in the 7th? What is it like for you?