Black Moon Lilith and the Sun in Synastry

best friends darknessWhen Black Moon Lilith and the Sun come together in a synastry chart, the effects are written in bold strokes. Depending on the type of aspect the who points make, the impact could be deeply healing, completely maddening, or some mixture of the two. So if you see the Sun and Lilith in aspect in synastry, what do you need to know?

·        Healing, once and for all. When Lilith and the Sun make a positive aspect like a trine or sextile, there is a potential for real, powerful healing. The Sun’s warm rays shine down upon Lilith’s tired face and she feels seen, truly seen. The Lilith person finally feels validated, likely for the first time. In turn, the Sun person shares their authenticity and warmth and feels gratitude for being able to connect in such a deep, sincere way. This connection can knit a couple together in profound and long-lasting ways.

·        Projecting Darkness. Not all aspects are easy. A conjunction, square, or especially an opposition can have a very different effect. Here, the Sun person fully inhabits their scorching rays, and the Lilith person stays in shadow. The Sun person may project upon the Lilith person, keeping them in shadow and blaming them for not standing in the light. Lilith, hurt and outraged, will either withdraw into their darkness or lash out, refusing to carry another’s shadow. This can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings on both sides.

·        Perfectly Imperfect. Of course, not everything is that black and white. What if one person’s Lilith opposes the other’s Sun, but that person’s Lilith trines the first person’s Venus? Or what about a thousand other mitigating factors? Then we have a mix of both. Sometimes Lilith feels seen and loved for who she is, and sometimes she feels judged or sidelined. Sometimes the Sun feels magnanimous and warm, and sometimes it feels repulsed and judgmental. It’s in these configurations that we are able to both see what we have to work on and enjoy the fruits of our labor. The Sun person works on creating a safe, warm space for the Lilith person to be themselves, and the Lilith person works on frank and loving self-disclosure. Sometimes they’ll fail. But more often, they’ll succeed. And when they do, it will bring them even closer.

Though the nature of the relationship depends on the whole chart, the profound nature of this aspect is undeniable. With work, honestly, and a real willingness to see each other’s point of view, this aspect can become the magic glue that holds the couple together for life.

Do you and your partner have the Sun and Lilith in aspect? What is it like?

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Black Moon Lilith and the Sun in Synastry — 2 Comments

  1. Interesting article Midara. I have some experience of this aspect that I’m not too proud of but learnt a lot as a result. My Venus Mars and bml are all conjunct within one degree. A few years back I met a guy online who confirmed he was single. I eventually found out he was engaged then made the mistake to continue seeing him as feelings had started to develop. Transit Pluto was squaring my Venus/Mars/Lilith at the time. The fiancé inevitably found out about me and everything came to abrupt end, including the engagement. The fiancés sun was conjunct my Venus/Mars/Lilith to the exact degree, so she was also experiencing the Pluto square transit. I definitely was cast as the bad woman who ruined the perfect relationship even though he had been cheating on her for years (which I subsequently found out), but I was the catalyst that brought it all out into the open. I’m still coming to terms with it all and the part I played in ending a long serious relationship, but I hope that maybe on some level the fiancé will become a stronger person in the end and things will work out better for her in the long run.

    • Wow,what a dynamic life lesson, Anon! I read your story three times and felt it deeply. Thx for sharing it. You are a remarkable woman! And he is despicable.

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