This is a follow up to Why People Fail To Make Friends Or Find Love.
Reading the comments and some of forum discussions that post prompted, made me realize that a lot of people are just plain anti-social. And they don’t necessarily realize it.
First, let me define that term. To me a person can be Antisocial But Not Disordered. They may be crotchety the way I described in that post. They may just not like to be around people all that much.
My husband is like this. He’d rather do X, Y or Z then chat or interact with people. Consequently he doesn’t encourage people to form relationships with him. He’d rather study something or work on developing and proving his mathematical theories.
Since he does not want to socialize, he’s consciously and purposefully, anti-social. This makes sense to me.
I am the opposite. Having Libra, I am consciously and purposely social. This also makes sense to me.
What kills me is the legions of people who claim to want to get along with others, but everything they do is utterly anti-social. They won’t give an inch.
What’s up with this? You either want to get along with people, or you don’t. Why can’t people decide?
How strong is your desire to connect with others? Does your behavior correlate? Or is there a disconnect?